BEYOND THE DILDO DOOR: Some Bullet Points About Daily Life in a Sex Shop

This week on Turn Me On Jeremie and Bryde escape to a cabin in the woods to ring in Bryde’s 33rd Birthday! They get a little drunk and talk about polyamory. Plus they read their first submission of listener mail, review The Vesper - Vibrator Necklace from CRAVE & some brand new weed lube going to market in Halifax soon.

They also sit down with Christine from Halifax’s favourite sex store Venus Envy. They dive into female masturbation, virgin sex soundtracks, oral sex workshops, the future of sex toys and of course the 5 cardinal rules of butt play. So grab your favourite beau, your favourite butt plug, a jar of lube and enjoy.

Check out Christine's blog post below.



Since 2013, it has been my job to talk to strangers about sex. I work at Venus Envy, a local education-based sex shop and bookstore that's been around since 1998. I have many favourite parts of my job:

  • my coworkers (some of my best friends! I learn so much from them all the damn time.)

  • the sorts of interactions where a person walks in anxious and leaves invigorated.

  • talking to multi-generational groups of customers, especially older women.

  • getting to talk about butts professionally. What a world.

  • my book and toy collection is kind of out of hand at this point.

  • talking to students and providing the sort of sex-ed I wish my younger self had.

There are some parts that would probably seem weird to most folks but are just my everyday life:

  • butt plugs hanging in the background of all my work selfies

  • an entire door of dildos (where does this lead? Narnia? We'll never tell.) [photo]

  • sentences like “are we out of the Robo Suck 3000?” or "hey, what vulva do you want for tonight's workshop?"

  • at-home tasks like boiling toys on my stove to see if they melt (to verify that they're 100% silicone). Or covering sex toys in spray glue and glitter for an event (my driveway was rainbow-sparkly for months). 

 
 

On the topic of weird, my least favourite thing people ask me (thanks, Jeremie and Bryde for not asking this!) is “what is the weirdest thing people buy/ask for?” Ugh, I hate this question for several reasons:

  • my job is to make people comfortable about talking to me about intimate stuff. If you come in to the shop and talk about things you feel vulnerable and nervous about, you deserve to be sure of your privacy.

  • working here has majorly reinforced to me that 'normal' and 'weird' are 1000% made up ideas. Desire is vast and infinitely varied and that is exciting and awesome. I don't think there is anything someone could say to me at this point that would make me raise an eyebrow. I mean, I can't independently raise one eyebrow anyways, but if I could – you get the point.

I would never in a million years be able to call myself a professional sexpert without rolling my eyes and laughing at myself, but I can say that although I don't have all the answers, I am pretty skilled at talking about sex comfortably with most anyone. Maybe with the exception of my parents.  

- CHRISTINE


Venus Envy Halifax is an education-oriented sex shop and bookstore located in Halifax, Nova Scotia. Their mission: 

"We believe that everyone has the right to pleasure and that exploring sexual pleasure is key to being a healthy human being. Sexuality is a core component of personal identity, and strongly influences how we all operate in the world — from what we buy, to where we live, to how we interact with others. Everyone has the right to the shameless exploration of sex and sensuality, free from the disapproval of pleasure so often the case in our sex-negative culture.

Sexual experiences range from fun and playful to intense and healing. Pleasure that's right for one person isn't necessarily right for the next. We believe that education and self-exploration are the best way to become comfortable with our desires, and make us more understanding of desires that are not our own.

Because this is what we believe, we offer a comfortable, non-judgmental environment and a wide range of tools and toys so people can explore their sexuality and gender. With a variety of high-quality products, knowledgeable and friendly staff, and a far-ranging workshop series, Venus Envy is an educational community as well as a retail business where people can ask questions, share experiences, and empower themselves."

Venus Envy is open seven days a week and are located at 1598 Barrington St. If you're looking for a place to spice things up with some new books, toys, DVD's or workshops on sex and relationships this is the place for you. For more information go to www.venusenvy.ca

Jeremie Saunders